mortality and waffles
Okay, then. Jude and I saw Nathan and Sean off at SeaTac Airport yesterday, capping a
wonderful visit. We hurried home to a roomier but quieter house, stopping only for some
not-much-cheaper-than-Canadian U.S. gas and much-cheaper-than-in-Canada Kahlua at
the duty free store at the border.
Along the way, we found this priceless comment on American culture:
So now I want to tell you about my recent visit to Kansas to see grandson Sean’s high school
graduation. Last month I caught a red-eye flight out of Seattle and met my old friend Bill near
Kansas City for breakfast.
Here we are at the restaurant, Bill ruining
the shot like he always does by insisting on
being taller than me. We’ve endured much
together over many years. Long strange
trip kinda thing. We were discussing mor-
tality over waffles, andI mentioned that I
might be seeing people this visit that I’ll
never see again.
It was important to me to use this possibly last face-to-face to make certain that there were
no unresolved grudges, no unfinished business, nothing left unsaid. As I was expressing how
valuable that was to me when my parents were dying, I started crying. Tears welled up in
Bill’s eyes, too. He patted my hand.
It must have been an odd sight in a public place: two old guys in tears, one physically com-
forting the other. In fact, I believe it’s still illegal in Kansas. But no one bothered us, possibly
because we were at an International House of Pancakes. IHOP’s may be legally nebulous areas,
like embassies and borders between countries.
Just to play it safe, though, we tipped well.
My time with Bill was far too short, as always. I had to press on, however, because I wanted
to see one more friend in the area before I drove to Pittsburg. Tim had been a kid at an
adolescent group home I had worked at in the ’70’s. He’s smart and observant, and had
no trouble figuring out how to work the system.
As an adult he worked with teenagers himself. He excelled at it because he knew every con-
ceivable trick and was always way ahead of the kids. But he hit a dark stretch and got heavily
involved with crack. He lost everything and ended up on the streets. One night he was severely
beaten in a drug dispute and left for dead.
He was so seriously injured that he couldn’t speak for two years. Today, having overcome
tremendous odds, he runs a Christian recovery house in the roughest part of Kansas City.
Here he is with his dog Alex.
You’re looking at angels, folks. Tim runs
the house without any kind of official
support. Alex, whose gentleness was part
of the program, was a recovery dog who
helped people recover. He died last week
under mysterious circumstances.
When I talked to Tim earlier today, he was checking a new fellow into the program. With
just modest rent payments from the residents and his strength of heart, Tim gives hope to
men that most everyone else has given up on. Would you please send him a thought or
prayer or comment here to let him know his efforts are appreciated?
Thank you.
WEDNESDAY: on to Pittsburg.


